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“TO LIVE IS TO CHOOSE. BUT TO CHOOSE WELL< YOU MUST KNOW WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU STAND FOR, WHERE YOU WANT TO GO AND WHY YOU YOU WANT TO GET THERE.”  Kofi Annan

I believe that, whatever’s going on, whether it’s stuff we like or stuff we’d like to change, WE get to choose. We can’t choose what’s happening, but we can choose how we relate and respond to what’s happening, and the meaning and perspective that we give to it.

REMEMBERING we have the power to choose is the first step. Then, if we choose to, we can MAKE THOSE CHOICES.

Simple, powerful choices about what we give our focus to can change everything about how we ‘experience’ ourself, how life occurs to us, and the way we navigate our way through life. We can, if we choose to, become conscious creators of our own experience.

Here’s what I observe: most people base their personal happiness on things outside of their control. They avoid taking 100% responsibility for their life. I know I did – for far too long. Bonkers.

Here’s what I am absolutely certain of – WE HAVE THE POWER TO CHOOSE. Always.

And it's a simple choice.

  • We can choose fascination over frustration.
  • We can choose freedom over suffering (in other words, we can choose not to suffer, even when we’re in pain).
  • We can choose empowerment over victim-hood.
  • We can choose which voices (both internal and external) we listen to : the cheerleaders or the critics.
  • We can choose love over being right.
  • We can choose gratitude over just about everything.
  • And we can choose our own stories – the stories we make up to interpret and make sense of life and what’s happening.

Of course crap happens …
Relationships end. People die. Jobs finish. Debts mount. Bodies hurt.
And miracles happen too – beauty and magic and awesomeness.
And all of the stuff in between.

How we deal with these things, how we incorporate them into our own personal narrative, what meaning we give to them … that’s always OUR CHOICE, even when we forget or when our ‘story’ seduces us into thinking otherwise.

Exploring that truth and finding resources and strategies to help us to reject suffering, to choose love, to live ‘a life that works’ (whatever that looks like for you), that seems to me to be a fine way, and a fun way and …

... an important way to spend some time.